☘️ Letting Go Of Sentimental Items - Decluttering Mementos & Sentimental Stuff - Declutter Challenge
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- Опубликовано: 26 авг 2020
- ☘️ Decluttering mementos can be one of the most draining categories but, as always, I'm showing you how to get FAST results in just FIVE minutes.
And let me tell you, I had tried decluttering sentimental items twice but was still having trouble letting go of my daughter's baby clothes when suddenly, fate intervened and provided me with the perfect answer. I'm sharing that in today's video.
And I know letting go of sentimental items can be tough so I also talked about some of the biggest decluttering obstacles in this category, like how you can part with items you've inherited from a loved one.
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Laura
I'm having trouble letting go of a painting my sister did. She cruelly discarded me 10 years ago and I haven't seen her since, so I find I'm grieving her in my decluttering process, along with our mother, who died last year. I don't miss either of them, they were both abusive, but she gave me this painting when I really looked up to her and I adored it. Now whenever I look at it, it just brings me pain. I used to enjoy having it because I loved looking at it, it was so pretty. It's been on my wall for years but once I really started grieving, I couldn't bear looking at it anymore. So if I get rid of it, I won't have it to look at anymore, but I can't bear to keep painful things of hers anymore. I could take a picture of it, but it would be the same as owning the canvas. For some reason I still put value in that. I put so much personal value in this painting. So for now it sits in my closet. I may have to drive it to Goodwill one day like ripping off a bandaid. Really quick before I have time to think about it.
I am so sorry to hear about your struggle. Perhaps talking about it with a friend will help you be able to let go of it. Show it to your friend, maybe have a good cry about it, and with your friend’s support maybe you will feel ready to let it go. If you need some spiritual support, maybe talk to a priest about your experience- it seems like you’ve been through a lot ❤️ God bless you
🌈 rainbow background! My 5 year old just freaked out and laughed 😂 too cute
It's in my daughter's room. My husband painted it a few weeks ago. =)
@@HowToGYST Can you share how you did it? Any tips?
He measured the length of the wall and found the centre spot. Then taped some string to that spot on the baseboard and a pencil at the other end, and used that to draw the arches, reducing the length each time. Then just went to town with the paint. Ha ha. Hope that makes sense!
This is a hard one. We have old parents who can't let go and we have to let them realize they can't take it with them to where they are moving to. This is more painful to watch and easier for me to let go as i do not want someone else to make decisions for me.
Could you possibly do a video in the future about how to help parents downsize and declutter when they have to move to smaller place or assisted living. It has been a painful process for our family. Thanks loving your video's keep them coming.
I decluttered and boxed my childhood stuff at 16 yrs when I finished school, then at 18 yrs when I finished college, then again at 24yrs when I finished Uni... Then I moved to Germany (with just a rucksack) . When my parents visited with their truck after my first child was born they brought all my boxes.. 19!!... I spent 2 years reducing them to 5 photo/scrapbook albums and 5 boxes. Easter this year I did the "Swedish Death Clean" on those boxes.. . Due to Covid19.. And I read my old journals/diaries and old letters from previous boyfriends that I still had.. Had a giggle and then binned all but a couple of letters (that I wouldn't mind my kids reading if I suddenly died).. Now I just have 2 small boxes...it's great... But I hope to get it down to one.. Maybe next year.. I will see... I know there are still a few things I could part with.. But I am not ready.. I so agree with you that doing sweeps over the sentimental is the best way... And it gets easier each time!
YES! Things that are sentimental now won't always be, so it's important to keep pruning as you go. Sounds like you've done an excellent job!
My 20 something children appreciate how I never made them feel that they were only loveable when they were infants or toddlers by holding onto those things. I have one box with all the hospital bands, that's it. We never take it out or look at it or think about it. I tend to be a "future saver" the "I might need this in the future" hoarder. So I'm in no position to judge just thought I'd share how at least my kids ultimately felt. Their grandmother was the one saving "baby things" that my kids said made them feel like she only liked them when they were tiny.
My mom kept the beanie and hospital shirt I came home with. She gave it to me when I was older along with a keychain of my baby picture. I thought it was sweet. So I did the same with my daughter.
My mom kept the beanie and hospital shirt I came home with. She gave it to me when I was older along with a keychain of my baby picture. I thought it was sweet. So I did the same with my daughter.
I just love what you said:"A quick sprint down a strange alley way at night"!! 🤣Some memories are like that for certain!!💯%!!
I remember when you did your attic the first time. It seemed quite hard for you- seeing you get through It was very helpful to me.
It was VERY hard. Not an enjoyable process at all. But I learned a LOT from it. I'm so glad it helped you. I always try to paint an accurate picture of what the process is like. Sometimes I get negative comments telling me to stop complaining, but I can't just pretend it was all sunshine and roses and I just clicked my fingers and all the work was done. If only! Ha ha.
I love your channel! I remember when I first met my boyfriend a year and a half ago, I was so impressed with how little stuff he seemed to have. Now we live together and I have been on a decluttering journey, and he has more unnecessary stuff than me now, and gets inspired to declutter by my progress! Lol
Good video. I suggest if sentimental clothing...ie infant wear, clothing from a loved one who had died, to have a quilt made. I had a shirt from my late husband. Having this made into a pillow for grandchild. My wedding dress...before donating to Angel wear for families who have lost a baby, clothing for funeral, I’m having momento pillows for myself, as well as ring pillows for my two grand daughters for future wedding.
Beautiful.
PS. Your daughter is a doll!
:D Thank you.
I had thought clearing the attic (baby and Christmas items) was going to be the hardest - physically it was. Dragging boxes down was physically the hardest and definitely the messiest. But going thru mom's photos is truly the toughest. Working my way thru the 80s!
Hi 🥰 I've taken digital photos of all my keepsakes (incl baby items). This way, I can just go to my album and look at keepsakes there and remove the items themselves. I'm also going to have a teddy bear made from my daughter's clothes x
That rainbow wall is amazing!!!
I kept some baby blankets from my 11yo son. I came across them recently and my heart! But at the same time it made me sad because they were just sitting in a cupboard not used. My sister-in-law recently had a baby so I asked her if she wanted them. She did. It made me so happy to see my nephew using one of the blankets the next time I saw them.
I decluttered something sentimental today and I'm watching this in the hope that I won't claw it back again... 😆
I have a friend who has four daughters (now all grown and out on their own). Her mom (girl's grandma) gave each of the girls a beautiful Christmas and Easter dress each year. My friend kept them all, but that turns into a LOT of dresses! Eventually she faced it down and came up with a lovely solution. She paid someone to take a part of each one and make them into one quilt for her to keep. (I'm not sure but she may have also done one for each girl.) I wish I could find as lovely a solution to all of my sentimental items...
This was a cracker Laura! I took so much out of this. So many great strategies for every level. Thankyou again for sharing your story 💙
Appreciate your philosophical approach to sentimental items in this video. Thank you. 💝
Thanks again, so much, for working so hard on all these fantastic videos and your wonderful advice.
I really appreciate that, thank you! It's definitely been a HUGE amount of work, but very rewarding when I hear how helpful people are finding it.
Fabulous tips for the sentimental purge. Thank you.🥰
You're welcome. :D Thanks for watching, Andrea.
Thank you this was very helpful 😘 xx
I think most people wait to long to give away baby clothes. If you do it immediately (after family planning is over) they do not become sentimental.
We have a "rule of three" at our house - if we think about it or especially if we mention it 3 times, action must be taken. We stumbled on this by accident when my husband, who does not think he needs much (used to be a monk and lived in a single room) mentioned something 3 times over the course of about two weeks. After the third time, I told him it sounded like he needed to get the thing because he usually just lets stuff go after he first notices it. And then we began to notice that this system works (for us) - so if I've been thinking I need to get rid of something, and then Laura posts a video about it and it comes up again (because it's already popped up in my attention twice before that), that is what I work on.
Oh, Laura I hope you didn't throw out that photo of Sam and his wife. 😱. This is a hard category and you are perfectly correct in your advice on how you handle it. My wee mammy from Birr died 37 years ago and I remember her perfectly well without holding onto her bus pass !! 😂 Dear me, what am I thinking of?!. That's the level of sentimental stuff in my possession, stuff that very same Mam would describe as, ' neither use nor ornament '. Slainte.💖😊
My mom would want me to keep all of her crap! She gets upset and says "I know you're just gonna get rid of all my stuff when I die". 🙄
That's purely because of her own connection to it. She's had a whole lifetime of living with it. The real pain for her is that SHE will be parted with it, not that you will.
Maybe she's afraid of being discarded or forgotten. I keep having dreams that my dead mother is trying to stop my decluttering process and I think it might be because I'm slowly erasing her from my future life as I do. She was abusive and her death was my freedom, but I keep finding old cards, gifts, or her own clutter that she sent to me by mistake years ago. She was a pack rat (ok, a lesser hoarder) and my dad still lives in her mess because I don't think he has anyone where he lives to help him go through it all. I could totally see her not wanting me to get rid of anything. She kept trying to get me to claim things of hers years before she died so we wouldn't fight over it, but I never really wanted anything. My sister had already claimed the one thing I thought I wanted, but when I think about it now, I really don't. I'm glad my sister is taking it. Mom assumed I wanted her antiques and stuff, but I very much don't. I have more than enough stuff of my own. As I'm going through her boxes, I'm finding old magazines and newspaper clippings from the 1960's -- things that should have been thrown out decades ago. Old telephone messages and pens that haven't worked since the 80's. That woman kept everything. But I'm not letting these bad dreams stop me. She's dead now. She doesn't need any of this stuff. She'll still be in my past and in my memories, but my life going forward is finally going to be my own. The more of her things I get rid of, the less of her filter I live my life through. It's very cathartic.
Great video. I am struggling right now to declutter a ton of photos that I have from when my kids were little. They are now older, out of the house and have families of their own, and I'm finding it really difficult to remove those items from my home. I struggle with tossing those memories in the trash and I don't know how else to remove them from the home.
Photos are definitely hard to toss. Sometimes it helps me if I put them in an envelope or hide them in something else I'm getting rid of (like a magazine or something). That helps take the "sting" out of it. But honestly, after they're gone, you'll quickly forget about them.
I have so much inherited stuff from dead relatives and I want to unload it, it is really hard.
Omg seriously, my (recently inherited and FULL) basement is basically a museum to my ancestors, many of whom I never even met.
Why are baby clothes SO hard to get rid of? I cry everytime my kids go up a size and I have to go through their drawers lol
12:22 ❤️
I have an issue wherein some items I'm ready to let go of, my SO or daughter are not. They're not even their memories (I.E. an item with a joint memory or attachment), they're strictly mine, lol. But I do appreciate the video and tips. We have to start going to our items in storage and I know there are some really difficult items in there. I have some in my apartment, but that's my journey. I am definitely not looking forward to the photos or trinkets. Some started as very fond memories, but they've been sullied with recent events. They're painful now. Such is life.
If it's strictly your stuff I think it's perfectly acceptable to get rid of it without their input.
I do have a sentimental item declutter question. I have a stuffed animal I received from an old boyfriend when I was 17. We decided we were better as friends not long after, but many years later (Almost 15 years) I still have the toy on my desk because I genuinely enjoy seeing it. The question is should I chuck it?
I would let it go. Maybe take a picture if it will help you to just look at it. I had a pair of earrings an ex gave me that I held on to for years because they seemed too nice to get rid of. My click moment came when my then current significant other asked me where and when I got them and I lied and said I didn't remember.
If you love seeing it, you don't mind it taking up space, and it doesn't have any bad memories attached, I don't see the harm in keeping it. But I guess you have to consider why you're asking the question in the first place. ;)
How to Get Your Shit Together My daughter asked me why I had a stuffy LOL. My husband knows where it’s from. That was so long ago it doesn’t really matter.
Hi Laura, I’ve already been getting rid of mementos that bring back negative memories.
I’m stuck on photo albums. I have 23 notebooks full of photos on that old fashioned sticky photo paper that has plastic cover. Also 9 spiral photo albums, same tripe of paper (which are. Older than you).
I don’t know how to declutter them! If I find a picture on that page, there are still I’d want. And I can’t be ripping photos out because I have carpal tunnel pain/arthritis.
Any suggestions are appreciated! Thank you so much for this wonderful month.
Is there anything of value on the back? If not, perhaps simply cutting/slicing them out would be an option, or tearing out that page? Failing that, if your local pharmacy has a photo lab, they may be able to scan the photos and either do re-prints or put them on a disk or something. There are also online services that do it. I've never tried any personally but a friend has had really good results with Kodak's online service. You send your photos and they digitise them for you and send back the originals along with a disk or thumb drive of the scanned copies. Hopefully one of those options will work. =)
How to Get Your Shit Together thanks, Laura, there are pictures on the front and back. I think I’m just going to spend my daily declutter time looking at them.
Mailing them. Will have to see. Probably lots of postage.
The older ones might be easier, as the sticky part isn’t sticking.
Thanks for your reply.
Automatic subtitles are in Dutch!?! Obviously RUclips doesn't now any Irish accent! :D
Are they?! I have the language of the video set to (Irish) English. How odd!
@@HowToGYST Yes, at least for me! Might be due to the fact that I'm watching from Germany but actually that should not be the reason. I love your accent but sometimes I have to watch with the volume turned off.
mOmentos ?
The official spelling is mementos, though momentos is recognised by some dictionaries as an acceptable variant.
So happy to learn this original spelling of mementos. Thank you! Great, helpful video as well.